November, 2009: You Reap What You Sow

The man slowly looked up. This was a woman clearly accustomed to the finer things of life. Her coat was new. She looked like she had never missed a meal in her life. His first thought was that she wanted to make fun of him, like so many others had done before. “Leave me alone,” he growled… To his amazement, the woman continued standing. She was smiling — her even white teeth displayed in dazzling rows.

“Are you hungry?” she asked.

“No,” he answered sarcastically. “I’ve just come from dining with the president.. Now go away.”

The woman’s smile became even broader.

Suddenly the man felt a gentle hand under his arm. “What are you doing, lady?” the man asked angrily. “I said to leave me alone.

Just then a policeman came up. “Is there any problem, ma’am?” he asked..

“No problem here, officer,” the woman answered. “I’m just trying to get this man to his feet. Will you help me?”

The officer scratched his head. “That’s old Jack. He’s been a fixture around here for a couple of years. What do you want with him?”

“See that cafeteria over there?” she asked. “I’m going to get him something to eat and get him out of the cold for awhile.”

“Are you crazy, lady?” the homeless man resisted . “I don’t want to go in there!” Then he felt strong hands grab his other arm and lift him up. “Let me go, officer. I didn’t do anything..”

“This is a good deal for you, Jack,” the officer answered. “Don’t blow it.” Finally, and with some difficulty, the woman and the police officer got Jack into the cafeteria and sat him at a table in a remote corner. It was the middle of the morning, so most of the breakfast crowd had already left and the lunch bunch had not yet arrived.

The manager strode across the cafeteria and stood by his table. “What’s going on here, officer?” he asked. “What is all this, is this man in trouble?”

“This lady brought this man in here to be fed,” the policeman answered.

“Not in here!” the manager replied angrily. “Having a person like that here is bad for business.”

Old Jack smiled a toothless grin. “See, lady. I told you so. Now if you’ll let me go. I didn’t want to come here in the first place”

The woman turned to the cafeteria manager and smiled. “Sir, are you familiar with Eddy and Associates, the banking firm down the street?”

“Of course I am,” the manager answered impatiently. “They hold their weekly meetings in one of my banquet rooms.”

“And do you make a goodly amount of money providing food at these weekly meetings?”

“What business is that of yours?”

I, sir, am Penelope Eddy, president and CEO of the company.” “Oh…”

The woman smiled again.. “I thought that might make a difference.” She glanced at the cop who was busy stifling a laugh. “Would you like to join us in a cup of coffee and a meal, officer?”

“No thanks, ma’am,” the officer replied. “I’m on duty.”

“Then, perhaps, a cup of coffee to go?”

“Yes, ma’am. That would be very nice.”

The cafeteria manager turned on his heel. “I’ll get your coffee for you right away, officer.”

The officer watched him walk away. “You certainly put him in his place,” he said. “That was not my intent… Believe it or not, I have a reason for all this.”

She sat down at the table across from her amazed dinner guest. She stared at him intently.

“Jack, do you remember me?”

Old Jack searched her face with his old, rheumy eyes. “I think so — I mean you do look familiar.”

“I’m a little older perhaps,” she said. “Maybe I’ve even filled out more than in my younger days when you worked here, and I came through that very door, cold and hungry.”

“Ma’am?” the officer said questioningly. He couldn’t believe that such a magnificently turned out woman could ever have been hungry.

“I was just out of college,” the woman began. “I had come to the city looking for a job, but I couldn’t find anything. Finally I was down to my last few cents and had been kicked out of my apartment.. I walked the streets for days. It was February and I was cold and nearly starving. I saw this place and walked in on the off chance that I could get something to eat.”

Jack lit up with a smile. “Now I remember,” he said. “I was behind the serving counter. You came up and asked me if you could work for something to eat. I said that it was against company policy.”

“I know,” the woman continued. “Then you made me the biggest roast beef sandwich that I had ever seen, gave me a cup of coffee, and told me to go over to a corner table and enjoy it. I was afraid that you would get into trouble. Then, when I looked over and saw you put the price of my food in the cash register, I knew then that everything would be all right.”

“So you started your own business?” Old Jack said. “I got a job that very afternoon. I worked my way up. Eventually I started my own business that, with the help of God, prospered.” She opened her purse and pulled out a business card. “When you are finished here, I want you to pay a visit to a Mr. Lyons. He’s the personnel director of my company. I’ll go talk to him now and I’m certain he’ll find something for you to do around the office.” She smiled. “I think he might even find the funds to give you a little advance so that you can buy some clothes and get a place to live until you get on your feet. If you ever need anything, my door is always open to you.”
There were tears in the old man’s eyes. “How can I ever thank you?” he asked. “Don’t thank me,” the woman answered. “To God goes the glory. He led me to you.”

Outside the cafeteria, the officer and the woman paused at the entrance before going their separate ways. “Thank you for all your help, officer,” she said.

“On the contrary, Ms. Eddy,” he answered. “Thank you. I saw a miracle today, something that I will never forget. And thank you for the coffee.” Have a Wonderful Day. May God Bless You Always and don’t forget that when you “cast your bread upon the waters,” you never know how it will be returned to you. God is so big He can cover the whole world with his Love and so small He can curl up inside your heart. When God leads you to the edge of the cliff, trust Him fully and let go. Only 1 of 2 things will happen, either He’ll catch you when you fall, or He’ll teach you how to fly!

DO WE EVER KNOW WHEN THE GOOD WE DO FOR ANOTHER, WITHOUT NEEDING TO BE RECOGNIZED FOR DOING GOOD, WILL HELP SOMEONE BECOME A SUCCESS? AS RUTH SMELTZER SAID, “YOU HAVE NOT LIVED A PERFECT DAY, EVEN THOUGH YOU HAVE EARNED YOUR MONEY, UNLESS YOU HAVE DONE SOME THING FOR SOMEONE WHO WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO REPAY YOU.”

A Note about the weather

IF THE WEATHER SEEMS TO BE SNOWY OR ICY . . . LISTEN TO RADIO STATION WRNJ 1510 AM FOR DOJO CLOSINGS. I TRY TO CONTACT THEM AS EARLY AS POSSIBLE, GENERALLY AFTER 3:00 PM. IF NOT SURE CALL THE DOJO 908-852-5855 AFTER 5:00 PM OR MY CELL 908-797-0087. IF NO ONE IS AT THE DOJO, LEAVE A MESSAGE AND WE WILL CALL YOU BACK IF THE DOJO WILL BE OPEN. IF YOU DO NOT LIKE THE CONDITIONS DON’T RISK DRIVING – CALL AND YOU MAY MAKE THE CLASS UP.

October, 2009: Promotions

Congratulations to the students who earned promotions since our last newsletter:

Aidan Johnson Senior Yellow Belt Clairanne Arcaro

  • Junior Yellow Belt
    • Aidan Johnson
  • Senior Yellow Belt
    • Clairanne Arcaro

Thought of the Week #18

“There are only two options regarding commitment; you’re either in or you’re out. There’s no such thing as life in-between.” (Pat Riley)

Thought of the Week #16

“People of mediocre ability sometimes achieve outstanding success because they don’t know when to quit. Most men succeed because they are determined to.” (George E. Allen)

Seminars with Hanshi Duessel

Seminar with Hanshi Duessel

Hanshi William H. Duessel visited the Isshin-ryu School of Karate this weekend. He joined us for classes and conducted seminars on Friday and Saturday.

Friday’s seminar focused on self-defense techniques, releases, and arm/wrist locks. Hanshi stressed the importance of using “the technique and not strength” to make it work.

Saturday morning, Hanshi joined us for classes at the Panther Valley dojo, and worked kata and combination drills from seisan, seiuchin, wansu, kusanku and sunsu.

Saturday afternoon we went back tot he Hackettstown dojo for a seminar that covered some of the basics and one-step drills. We finished by working several of the multiple attacker drills that were taught to Hanshi by Tatsuo Shmabuku when he trained in Pittsburgh in 1964.
We had a great time, as always, learning from and spending time with Hanshi.

October, 2009: Newsletter

A study was done at the University of PA with 350,000 business people, sales people, entrepreneurs and professionals over a 22-year period. Each subject was asked, “What do you think about most of the time?” The top 10% responded, that they think about what they want and how to get it. They think about where they’re going and how to get there.

Conversely, the unsuccessful people thought about what they didn’t want. They worried about things that happened in the past that made them upset and angry. They shifted responsibility, they consistently thought about “who was to blame” for their situation.

Top people think about what they want and how to get it while average people think about what they don’t want and who is to blame. When you direct your attention upon what you want and how to get it, your whole life begins to change for the better.

You are extraordinary! Begin revising your thinking by accepting the fact that you ARE a remarkable person, possessed with incredible abilities and potential. You are capable of achieving anything that you really want in life.

I meet many very successful people and I often ask them, “What was your childhood like?” And they trace back to their mother or father or both who told them over and over again, “You can do anything you put your mind to” – and that rang in their young minds. When they grew up, this was their template; their frame of reference. That they could do anything they put their mind to. This is what you should say to yourself! I can do anything I put my mind to. I have unlimited potential!

Your self-concept determines what you think about most of the time. The discovery of the self-concept is the greatest breakthrough in human psychology in the 20th century. Your self-concept is a bundle of all your beliefs and abilities, this determines the way you see the world around you. You don’t see the world the way it is, but the way you are. Your self-concept is the power in your personality. It’s a source of your energy, enthusiasm, attitude and your happiness. When you like yourself, your self-esteem improves, your personality gets better, you feel happier with lots of enthusiasm, and your sense of value and personal worth increases. Your feeling of self-respect and personal pride improve. Setting big goals will cause you to like yourself more and see yourself in a more positive light. You will think better about yourself and you will feel and perform better in every part of your life!

We know that top people, the leaders, the superior men and women who we admire and respect are very clear about their ideals. Unsuccessful, unhappy people are very fuzzy about their ideals. Top people will never compromise their ideals and values for anything. Average people will compromise for the slightest advantage or short-term gain. The starting point for great success is to consistently be the very best person you can possibly be, and to have great clarity about who you are, what you believe in, what you really care about and what you stand for.

Your self-image is the way you see yourself and think about yourself, thereby determining your performance and effectiveness in any particular task or activity. The person you see is the person you will be. Psychologists sometimes describe your self-image as your inner mirror. It’s the mirror you look into to see how you’re expected to behave before you go into any social situation or sales conversation. Your walk is relaxed and confident, and surprise – this inner picture becomes your external reality!

Everyone has a mental picture before they go into a situation. Successful people replay pictures of previous success. Unsuccessful people replay pictures of previous failure. The subconscious mind is unable to distinguish between real or imaginary experiences. If you have positive and successful experiences and you replay them in your mind, your subconscious will record it as a new success experience. When you go into a new situation, your subconscious will say: “I’ve been here before, and you are really successful in this area; I’ve already seen you succeed 50 times!” Now you are operating under a tremendous feeling of confidence, poise and calmness. You can choose the thoughts and pictures you play in your mind. Think only of your very best experiences prior to every event.

THE IDEAS IN THIS MONTH’S SELECTION ARE NOT NEW AND WE HAVE SEEN THEM IN THE NEWSLETTERS, BY NUMEROUS SUCCESS COACHES, EDUCATORS AND PROFESSIONAL ATHLETES. WHAT IS UNIUQE IS THE WAY THIS STUDY CONDUCTED BY THE UNIVERSITY OF PENNSYLVANIA DURING A 22-YEAR PERIOD WORKED WITH 350,000 PEOPLE. OUR DOJO STRESSES THE IMPORTANCE OF EACH INDIVIDUAL AND WORKS TO HELP EACH PERSON REACH HIS OR HER FULL POTENTIAL. WE HELP TO RELATE GROWTH BY PROMOTIONS EARNED THROUGH EACH PERSON’S EFFORTS. NO TWO PEOPLE ARE THE SAME BUT EACH PERSON IS CAPABLE OF GREAT SUCCESS, REGARDLESS OF RANK. MORE THAN TELLING ME WHAT RANK YOU ARE, SHOW ME, WHILE IN THE DOJO AND IN YOUR PERSONAL LIFE. THERE SHOULD BE THE SAME DEMONSTRATION OF KNOWLEDGE, SPIRIT, KINDNESS AND ENERGY. CONSISTENTLY DEMONSTRATE DURING TRAINING, THAT KNOWLEDGE, ABILITY AND DESIRE TO IMPROVE ARE COMBINED. AS A RANK IS EARNED EACH OF US SHOULD NOT BECOME COMPLACENT AND SAY TO OURSELF OR OTHERS, “NOW I CAN TAKE IT EASY BECAUSE I HAVE ACHIEVED THIS LEVEL AND IT WILL TAKE MORE TIME AND EFFORT TO EARN MY NEXT PROMOTION.” WHERE WOULD WE BE IF THE PEOPLE WHO HELP TEACH THE CLASSES WERE SATISFIED AND COMPLACENT? HANSHI DUESSEL WAS PROMOTED TO 9TH DEGREE BLACK BELT IN 1990 AND BECAUSE THERE IS ONLY ONE 10TH DEGREE BLACK BELT IN OUR ASSOCIATION, THERE IS NO HIGHER RANK HE MAY EARN. HE STILL WORKS EVERY DAY TO IMPROVE SO HE CAN HELP OTHERS. SHOULD WE DO ANY LESS?

PLEASE PAY MONTHLY DUES AT THE BEGINNING OF EACH MONTH.

ADULT SEMINARS AT HANSHI TEMPLE’S DOJO – OCTOBER 4TH. MAKE EVERY EFFORT TO ATTEND.
THE COST IS MINIMAL AND WHAT MAY BE LEARNED IS HUGE.

HANSHI DUESSEL WILL BE HERE OCTOBER 9TH AND 10TH – – – PLEASE PLAN TO ATTEND.

FRIDAY EVENING 6 PM TO 7:30 PM – – – AT THE DOJO (JUNIOR GREEN BELTS AND ABOVE AND ADULTS) – – COST $10.00

SATURDAY AFTERNOON FROM 1:30 PM TO 3:30 PM AT THE DOJO FOR ADULTS – – FOLLOWED BY A GET TOGETHER AT KYOSHI’S – – – COST $10.00

TOURNAMENT FOR THE MT. ARLINGTON F.O.P LODGE #78
SUNDAY, OCTOBER 25TH
IT IS CLOSE TO HOME – – AND PRICED REASONABLY.
SEE KYOSHI IF INTERESTED.