During a recent children’s class I was asked to talk to the students about bullying and being bullied. As the discussion progressed it became known that the individual who was picked on by an older child had acted childishly and made fun of the older individual. This is what caused the incident. At times the person being bullied has not done anything to warrant the abuse. From previous experience (45 years of teaching experience) most cases of this nature are created by the person being bullied when the child acts immaturely or when the child taunts another individual. Our karate training does not guarantee that each encounter will be handled successfully. As an individual each person has the right and obligation to defend himself or herself from any attack. If a friend is being bullied often a comment from a friend may be enough to end the situation. If action is needed act in the best interest of oneself and the friend being picked on.
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What gives a man or woman the right to lead? – John Maxwell It certainly isn’t gained by election or appointment. Having position, title, rank, or degrees doesn’t qualify anyone to lead other people. And the ability doesn’t come automatically from age or experience, either. No, it would be accurate to say that no one can be given the right to lead. The right to lead can only be earned. And that takes time.
The Kind of Leader Others Want to Follow
The key to becoming an effective leader is not to focus on making other people follow, but on making yourself the kind of person they want to follow. You must become someone others can trust to take them where they want to go. As you prepare yourself to become a better leader, use the following guidelines to help you grow:
1) Let go of your ego.
The truly great leaders are not in leadership for personal gain. They lead in order to serve other people. Perhaps that is why Lawrence D. Bell remarked, “Show me a man who cannot bother to do little things, and I’ll show you a man who cannot be trusted to do big things.”
2) Become a good follower first.
Rare is the effective leader who didn’t learn to become a good follower first. That is why a leadership institution such as the United States Military Academy teaches its officers to become effective followers first—and why West Point has produced more leaders than the Harvard Business School.
3) Build positive relationships.
Leadership is influence, nothing more, nothing less. That means it is by nature relational. Today’s generation of leaders seem particularly aware of this because title and position mean so little to them. They know intuitively that people go along with people they get along with.
4) Work with excellence.
No one respects and follows mediocrity. Leaders who earn the right to lead give their all to what they do. They bring into play not only their skills and talents, but also great passion and hard work. They perform on the highest level of which they are capable.
5) Rely on discipline, not emotion.
Leadership is often easy during the good times. It’s when everything seems to be against you—when you’re out of energy, and you don’t want to lead—that you earn your place as a leader. During every season of life, leaders face crucial moments when they must choose between gearing up or giving up. To make it through those times, rely on the rock of discipline, not the shifting sand of emotion.
6) Make adding value your goal.
When you look at the leaders whose names are revered long after they have finished leading, you find that they were men and women who helped people to live better lives and reach their potential. That is the highest calling of leadership—and its highest value.
7) Give your power away.
One of the ironies of leadership is that you become a better leader by sharing whatever power you have, not by saving it all for yourself. You’re meant to be a river, not a reservoir. If you use your power to empower others, your leadership will extend far beyond your grasp. In The Right to Lead, you will hear from and read about people who have done these same things and earned the right to lead others. Because of the courage they found and the character they displayed, other people recognized their admirable qualities and felt compelled to follow them. The followers who looked to these leaders learned from them, and so can we. As you explore their worlds and words, remember that it takes time to become worthy of followers. Leadership isn’t learned or earned in a moment.
One of the benefits of Isshin-ryu Karate training is developing the abilities mentioned in John Maxwell’s article. We learn to take responsibility for our actions. We learn that we are responsible to train diligently if success is to be achieved. We learn to work individually and as a part of a group.
DOJO FEES WILL REMAIN THE SAME FOR 2016 AS PER THE FEBRUARY 2013 FEE SCHEDULE
Please pay the beginning of each month
PER WEEK 1 STUDENT 2 STUDENTS 3 STUDENTS
1 CLASS $55.00 $100.00 $130.00
2 CLASSES $80.00 $145.00 $220.00
3 CLASSES $90.00 $170.00 $250.00
3 MONTHS (1X) $140.00 $265.00 $370.00
3 MONTHS (2X) $210.00 $385.00 $560.00
If paying monthly with more than one std. per family – additional student is a $10 reduction / month.
CONGRATULATIONS to the people who earned promotions since our last newsletter. Arianna DiPaola – Junior Yellow Belt, Max DiPaola – Junior Orange Belt, Ken Aten – Senior Yellow Belt.