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It begins with your decision, selected thoughts from seven pages of notes from a seminar in 2001 with Bob Proctor.
There is a single mental move which may be made, in a millisecond, will solve enormous problems. It has the potential to improve almost any personal situation … and it could literally propel us down the path to incredible success. We have a name for this magic mental activity … it is called DECISION.
Decisions or the lack of them are responsible for the breaking or making a successful person. Individuals who have become very proficient at making decisions, without being influenced by the opinions of others, are the same people who succeed at whatever they do in life; because life is dominated by this power. The health of one’s mind and body, the well-being of your family, one’s social life, the type of relationships you develop … all are dependent upon the ability to make sound decisions. This far-reaching power should be taught in every school, but it is not. To compound the problem, not only is decision-making missing from the curriculum of our educational institutions, up until recently, it’s also been absent from most of the corporate training and human resource programs available. Armed with the proper information and by subjecting yourself to certain disciplines, you can become a very effective decision maker. Decision-making brings order to the mind, and of course, this order is then reflected in the objective world … and ultimately the results.
James Allen may have been thinking of decisions when he wrote, “We think in secret and it comes to pass. Environment is but our looking glass.” No one can see you making decisions but they will almost always see the results of your decisions. The person who fails to develop the ability to make decisions is doomed because indecision sets up internal conflicts which can, without warming, escalate into all out mental and emotional wars. Psychiatrists have a name to describe these internal wars, it is ambivalence. It is obvious that anyone who finds himself in such a mental state is not living; at best, they are merely existing. A decision or a series of decisions would change everything.
A very basic law of the universe is “create or disintegrate”. Indecision causes disintegration. How often have you heard a person say, “I don’t know what to do.” How often have you heard yourself say, “What should I do?” Think about some of the indecisive feelings you and virtually everyone on this planet experience from time to time.
LOVE THEM – LEAVE THEM
QUIT – STAY
DO IT – DON’T DO IT
GO BANKRUPT – NO DON’T
GO TO WORK – WATCH TV
BUY IT – DON’T BUY IT
SAY IT – DON’T SAY IT
TELL THEM – DON’T TELL THEM
Everyone, on occasion, has experienced these feelings of ambivalence. If it happens frequently, decide right now to stop it. Indecision is a cause of ambivalence, however it is a secondary cause, it is not the primary cause. People who are able to make decisions have a very strong self image, a high degree of self-esteem and they certainly possess confidence. Decision makers are not afraid of making an error. If and when they make an error in their decision, or fail at something, they have the ability to shrug it off. They learn from the experience but they will never submit to the failure.
Every decision maker was either fortunate enough to have been raised in an environment where decision making was a part of their upbringing, or they developed the ability themselves at a later date. They are aware of something that everyone, who hopes to live a full life, must understand: Decision making is something you cannot avoid. That is the cardinal principle of decision making. DECIDE RIGHT WHERE YOU ARE WITH WHATEVER YOU’VE GOT. This is precisely why most people never master this important aspect of life. They permit their resources to dictate if and when a decision will or can be made. When John Kennedy asked Werner Von Braun what it would take to build a rocket that would carry a man to the moon and return him safely to earth, his answer was simple and direct. “The will to do it.” President Kennedy never asked if it was possible. He never asked if they could afford it or any one of a thousand other questions, all of which would have … at that time … been valid questions. President Kennedy made a decision … he said, we will put a man on the moon and return him safely to earth before the end of the decade. The fact that it had never been done before in all the hundreds of thousands of years of human history was not even a consideration. He DECIDED where he was with what he had. The objective was accomplished in his mind the second he made the decision. It was only a matter of time … which is governed by natural law before the goal was manifested in form for the whole world to see.
Thinking is very important. Decision makers are great thinkers. How much consideration is given to daily thoughts … how they affect the various aspects of daily life? Although this should be one of our most serious considerations, for many people it is not. There is a very small select few who make any attempt to control or govern their thoughts.
The great thinkers in history, the great decision makers, the achievers of history, will know they very rarely agreed on anything when it came to the study of human life. However, there was one point on which they were in complete and unanimous agreement and that was, “We become what we think about.” What do you think about? You and I must realize that our thoughts ultimately control every decision we make. You are the sum total of your thoughts and we have around 60,000 thoughts a day. By taking charge this very minute, you can guarantee yourself a good day. Refuse to let unhappy, negative people or circumstances affect you.
The greatest stumbling block to be encountered when making important decisions in life is circumstance. We let circumstance get us off the hook when we should be giving it everything we’ve got. More dreams are shattered and goals lost because of circumstance than any other single factor. How often have you caught yourself saying, “I would like to do or have this but I can’t because …” Whatever follows “because” is the circumstance. Circumstances may cause a detour in your life but you should never permit them to stop you from making important decisions.
Many misguided individuals try something once or twice and if they do not hit the bull’s-eye, they feel they are a failure. Failing does not make anyone a failure, but quitting most certainly does and quitting is a decision. By following that form of reasoning, you would have to say when you make a decision to quit, you make a decision to fail.
Every day in America, you hear about a baseball player signing a contract which will pay him a few million dollars a year. You should try to keep in mind … that same player misses the ball more often than he hits it when he steps up to the plate. Everyone remembers Babe Ruth for the 714 home runs he hit and they rarely mention that he struck out 1,330 times.
Charles F. Kettering said, and I quote, “When you’re inventing , if you flunk 999 times and succeed once, you’re in.”That is true of just about any activity you can name, but the world will soon forget your failures in light of your achievements. Don’t worry about failing, it will toughen you up and get you ready for your big win. Winning is a decision.
Many years ago Helen Keller was asked if she thought there was anything worse than being blind. She quickly replied that there was something much worse. She said, “The most pathetic person in the world is a person who has their sight but no vision.” I agree with Helen Keller. When a person has no vision of a better way of life, he automatically shuts himself in a prison; limited to a life without hope. This frequently happens when a person has seriously tried, on a number of occasions, to win, only to meet with failure time after time. Repeated failures can damage a person’s self-image and cause them to lose sight of one’s potential.
Take the first step in predicting your own prosperous future. Build a mental picture of exactly how you would like to live. Make a firm decision to hold on to that vision and positive ways to improve everything will begin to flow into your mind. Many people get a beautiful vision of how they would like to live but because they cannot see how they are going to make it all happen, they let the vision go. If they knew how they were going to get it or do it, they would have a plan not a vision. There is no inspiration in a plan but there sure is in a vision. ” When you get the vision, freeze frame it with a decision and don’t worry about how you will do it or where the resources will come from. Charge your decision with enthusiasm … that is important. Refuse to worry about how it will happen”.
We make advanced bookings when we fly somewhere, that is quite common. We make advanced reservations to eliminate any confusion or problems when the time arrives for the journey. We do the same with renting a car, for the same reason. Think of the problems you will eliminate by making many of the decisions you must make … well in advance. The exact same concept works with a person when they are on a diet to release weight. Their decisions are made in advance. If they are offered a big slice of chocolate cake, they don’t have to say, “Gee, that looks good … I wonder if I should.” The decision is made in advance.
I made a decision a long time ago that I would not participate in discussions of why something cannot be done. The only compensation you will ever receive for participating in or giving energy to that type of discussion, is something you do not want. I always find it amazing at the number of seemingly intelligent people who persist in dragging you into these negative brainstorming sessions. In one breath these people tell you they seriously want to accomplish a particular objective. And, in the next breath, they begin talking about why they can’t. Think of how much more of life they would enjoy by making a decision that they will no longer participate in that type of negative energy.
The humanistic psychologist, Dr. Abraham Maslow who devoted his life to studying self actualized people, stated very clearly that we should follow our inner guide and not be swayed by the opinion of others or outside circumstances. Maslow’s research showed that the decision makers in life had a number of things in common; most importantly, they did work they felt was worthwhile and important. They found work a pleasure, and there was little distinction between work and play. Dr. Maslow said, to be self actualized you must not only be doing work you consider to be important, you must do it well and enjoy it. Dr. Maslow recorded that these superior performers had values, those qualities in their personalities they considered to be worthwhile and important. Their values were not imposed by society, parents or other people in their lives. They did make their own decisions. Like their work, they chose and developed their values themselves.
Life is important and, at its best, life is short. You have the potential to do anything you choose, and to do it well. But, you must make decisions and when the time for a decision arrives, you must make your decision where you are with what you’ve got.
Years later, Thomas Edison said, and I quote, “If we all did the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves.” By making a simple decision, the greatest minds of the past are available to you. You can literally learn how to turn your wildest dreams into reality.
Put this valuable information to use and recognize the greatness which exists within you. You have limitless resources of potential and ability waiting to be developed. Start today – there’s never any time better than the present. Be all that you are capable of being.
OUR ISSHIN-RYU TRAINING CREATES OPPORTUNITIES EVERY DAY TO USE THE IDEAS RELATED IN THE NOTES TAKEN DURING THE SEMINARS WITH BOB PROCTOR, A WORLD RENOUN SUCCESS COACH AND MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKER. DO I PRACTICE TODAY OR WATCH TV OR PLAY GAMES? WHAT EFFORT AND THOUGHT DO I PUT FORTH DURING TRAINING AT HOME OR IN THE DOJO. THE POSSIBILITIES ARE LIMITLESS. AS IN THE QUOTATION BELOW, CHOOSE TO BE “THE LIGHT” , “THE DECISION MAKER” , THE MAKER OF “POSITIVE MOTIVATIONS FOR OTHERS”
Our Deepest Fear – by Marianne Williamson – from A Return To Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
DO NOT BE AFRAID TO STAND OUT, BE THE BEST AND STRIVE TO SET THE EXAMPLE FOR GREATNESS. TOO MANY PEOPLE ARE SATISFIED BEING AVERAGE. THIS DOES NOT DO ANYTHING TO PROMOTE A POSITIVE REFLECTION OF THE PEOPLE WE SHOULD STRIVE TO BE.