“Who said it could not be done? And tell me what great victories does he have to his credit, which qualifies him to judge what can and can’t be accomplished”.            Napoleon Hill

“We lift ourselves by our thought. If you want to enlarge your life, you must first enlarge your thought of it and of yourself. Hold the ideal of yourself as you long to be, always everywhere.”

Orison Swett Marden

“Defeat is a state of mind. No one is ever defeated until defeat has been accepted as reality. To me, defeat in anything is merely temporary, and its punishment is but an urge for me to greater effort to achieve my goal. Defeat simply tells me that something is wrong in my doing; it is a path leading to success and truth.”

Bruce Lee

“Fix your eyes forward on what you can do, not back on what you cannot change.”

Tom Clancy

“Determination and perseverance move the world; thinking that others will do it for you is a sure way to fail.”    Marva Collins

Being, Doing & Having – By Zig Ziglar – August 2003 – 5Pillars.com

One of my favorite phrases is “You’ve got to be before you can do, and do before you can have.” In short, you have to be a person of character and do the right things, and then you can have the things you really want. To make the “be, do, have” theory valid, believable, and usable on your part, look at some examples in your own life:

1. Take a sheet of paper and draw two vertical lines to make three columns.

2. At the top of the left-hand column, write BE; in the middle column write DO; and over the last column, write HAVE.

3. In the right-hand column, list all the things that you really want in life, whether it’s an education, good family relationships, a beautiful new home, a fancy luxury car, a trip around the world, better health–you name it.

4. Work your way down the center column of the page, identifying the things you have to do in order to have the things listed in the right-hand column.

Say that you want a successful marriage. To do so, you must be willing to share your innermost thoughts and concerns with your mate. You must carry more than your share of the workload, encourage you mate when he or she is down, and defend your mate against criticism. You need to remember special occasions. Be particularly helpful when your mate is having a “down day,” is not feeling well, or has had a tough time on the job. Apply the philosophy that you can have everything that you want out of this marriage if you just help your mate get what he or she wants.

Everybody’s list varies, because each of us has unique needs, beliefs and interests. However, the formula remains the same.

5. Go to the left-hand column and identify what you have to BE in order to DO so that you can HAVE. To have a successful marriage, some of the things that you must BE are faithful, attentive, loving, caring, helpful, empathetic, encouraging, persistent, committed, kind, thoughtful, considerate and responsible. Not having all these qualities at this moment is okay, because they’re all skills, and skills can be developed.

Regardless of what you want to HAVE you can use this basic formula. Just look at what you have to DO in order to accomplish that objective, and then examine yourself and determine what kind of person you have to be in order to do so that you can have.

“So let freedom ring from the prodigious hilltops of New Hampshire. Let freedom ring from the mighty mountains of New York. Let freedom ring from the heightening Alleghenies of Pennsylvania! Let freedom ring from the snow capped Rockies of Colorado! Let freedom ring from the curvaceous peaks of California! But not only that; let freedom ring from Stone Mountain of Georgia! Let freedom ring from Lookout Mountain of Tennessee! Let freedom ring from every hill and every molehill of Mississippi. From every mountainside, let freedom ring.” – Martin Luther King Jr.

“We cannot truly face life until we face the fact that it will be taken away from us.” — Billy Graham

“Sometimes you’ve got to let everything go…purge yourself. If you are unhappy with anything…whatever is bringing you down, get rid of it. Because you’ll find that when you’re free, your true creativity, your true self comes out.”   Tina Turner