“Do not stop thinking of life as an adventure. You have no security unless you can live bravely, excitingly, imaginatively; unless you can choose a challenge instead of competence.” Elanor Roosevelt
KARATE TRAINING SESSION AT HANSHI’S SATURDAY AUGUST 18th. MARK YOUR CALENDARS. MORE INFORMAITON WILL FOLLOW.
CONGRATULATIONS to the students who earned promotions: Junior Yellow Belt – Michael & Nikolas Hollman, Petey Donica Junior Green Belt #2 – Madeline Ridge, Dylan Schulze Junior Purple Belt #1 – Daniel & Rachel Tankel, Anthony Coletta Junior Purple Belt #2 – Izzy Donica Senior Brown Belt #3 – Angelina Goncalves, Kyle Coletta
As summer is beginning. School has ended for the year. Vacations and time with family and friends become an important part of the next few months. After reading about perfect moments, I recreated a synopsis of the author’s thoughts. What most excites you?
“Creating Your Perfect Moments” from “The Perfect Moment” by Andy Andrews
Once you start noticing your life’s perfect moments, there is only one thing you are going to want to do—create them intentionally. How many times have you planned an afternoon with your family or friends that you thought was going to be perfect, only for some unforeseen interruption or setback to derail the whole occasion? If planning perfect moments rarely works, how can we go about creating more of them? It’s simple: we create an environment conducive to perfect moments. The first step is to determine what this environment looks like. These three questions will get you started!
- What excites you more than anything else?
- What people do you particularly enjoy being around?
- If this were your last day, what would you do?
Based on your responses to these three questions, one may see the type of environment where most perfect moments would occur. After answering these questions, you may also find that your current life situation and your perfect moment environment are not aligned. It could be that the beach excites you more than anything else, but you live in a highrise in the city. Or maybe a relationship just ended with the person you want to be around and love the most.
Look at the circumstances of your life: What’s holding you back, and what can you do?
Beyond attempting to create “perfect moments”, it is important to be aware of what is needed to live the life we are intended to have. Let your passion lead you to your purpose. Decide what makes you happy, find a way to do that now. Work through fears and blocks that are holding you back. Finding that life is more than being mindful of your thoughts or transcending your ego. It’s about being able to tune in to your own inner compass and determine what feels right for you. The result is the ability to live abundantly and create your life as you dream it. It often requires a leap of faith to confidently declare that you deserve to be abundant, happy, and free. But that leap means the difference between a whole life and holding yourself back out of fear.
Mastering the Three Great Illusions – “Valuable Secrets to Present Moment Awareness” from The Best Is Yet to Be by George and Sedena Cappannelli
Three illusions significantly limit our lives and prevent us from living the life we were born to live. These are control, safety, and security. Learning to master them can be your next and most important step on this journey.
In this world where science and technology are revered, many of us live under the illusion that we can control things—our physical environment, our financial future, our careers, and in some instances, even the people around us. Yet, if we look closely at the most important events in our lives, most of us will admit that for all intents and purpose, life has been outside of our control. We did not control our birth, and the majority of us will not control our death. Even the basic physical functions that allow us to stay alive—respiration, digestion, elimination, and circulation—are autonomic. And some have suggested this is a very fortunate thing.
If you look closely and without ego at your life, you will also admit that many of the really meaningful and consequential events you’ve experienced fall into the category of surprises, unexpected events, and what Carl Jung called synchronicity—”chance exceeding probability.” Here are some examples: the moment the love of your life showed up; the day your career took one of its most surprising and beneficial turns (a turn which might have seemed negative at first); changes in your health that prompted you to adopt new practices and sometimes even a new way of life; chance encounters with people you did not like at first and who later became your close friends; unanticipated intersections with allies and mentors; and sudden flashes of insight and inspiration that brought you wonderful gifts.
Control is pretty much a fabrication, a kind of hoping against hope on the part of a species that likes to think it is “master of the universe” but for whom this complex thing called life remains pretty much beyond comprehension.
Safety and Security
What about safety and security? Many of us spend our lives in search of safety and security as we do trying to exercise control. In fact, if we are honest, we will admit that we cling to this holy triumvirate of control, safety, and security with a tenacity that ranges from the compulsive to the obsessive. On the surface, of course, some of us appear to succeed in our relationship with safety and security. We accumulate a certain amount of wealth and use it to erect buffers between us and the world: gated communities, 401(k) plans and other investment accounts, special insurance policies, extra health coverage plans. With all those buffers in place, we appear, at least on the surface, to be pretty safe and secure. If you look a little closer at these conditions, however, you will also discover that just like control, safety and security are illusions. For no matter how much money we have, how many private clubs we belong to, or whether protective gates surround our communities, no matter how many special health plans or insurance policies we own, in the end, none of them truly protect us from aging, illness, loss of loved ones, intersections with unhappiness, loss of meaning and purpose, and ultimately our own deaths, and none of them ensure that we will be more loving, generous, and conscious.
Surrender Is the Key
Instead, surrender, acceptance, and trust are the real keys to a successful life. This does not mean throwing in the towel and rolling over on life or not paying attention to the upkeep of our homes, payment of bills, making and monitoring investments, taking care of our health, nurturing our relationships, or ordering our affairs. Surrender, acceptance, and trust are not synonymous with indifference, inattention, and disinterest. As many wise beings before us have said, we do the best we can do, hold the highest thoughts possible, live life according to our truest set of values, and ultimately trust in the flow of life and in the higher order of things.
Indeed, a very wise old man, a master sculptor from Spain named José de Creeft, who was still carving and modeling remarkable pieces well into his nineties, said, “It is not our job to worry about the music. It is our job to become the best instruments we can so that the music of God can play through us.”
|“The road to happiness lies in two simple principles: find what interests you and that you can do well, and put your whole soul into it – every bit of energy and ambition and natural ability you have.” ~ John D. Rockefeller III|
|“Money will buy me a house, but not a home, a bed, but not a good night’s sleep.” ~~ Zig Ziglar|
|“Desire is the starting point of all achievement, not a hope, not a wish, but a keen pulsating desire, which transcends everything.” Napoleon Hill|
“A successful man is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at him.” ~David Brinkley
RULES – ARE FOUND IN THE STUDENT HANDBOOK. IF YOU DO NOT HAVE ONE, GENERALLY EMAILED WHEN A STUDENT JOINS THE DOJO, CHECK WITH HANSHI.
Dues should be paid the first week of each month. If you have a problem, let Hanshi know.
There are no promotion fees, but we ask that you pay for each obi (belt).
Respect will be shown to all karate-ka at all times. Respect is to be shown to all ranks.
Kyu ranks should not question Dan ranks, or ones higher in rank.
If a Kyu rank has a question, and the Dan rank doesn’t know the answer, approach Hanshi or the highest rank on the floor.
The head instructor, due to advanced rank, will be called Hanshi and black belts helping to teach are called Sensei.
No one is to bow onto or off the floor without being acknowledged by Hanshi or the highest rank on the floor.
A respectful bow will be given whenever entering and exiting the workout area.
A serious attitude should be maintained during workouts. Never correct the technique of a senior student (If in doubt, ask).
If a Dan rank wants to do something in class, all students must at least try, unless they have a physical issue where they can’t.
When you step onto the Dojo floor, you’re there to train. Everything should be done to the best of your ability.
Everyone should at least make an effort to attend Advanced Classes, Seminars, Tournaments, Camps, unless it’s not possible due to work, sickness, etc.
Advanced Teens and Adults may ask Hanshi to help children’s classes to assist learning and enthusiasm. These efforts are very important to the growth of each Karateka and the dojo.
Formal and group warm-ups will begin all classes.
Empty-hand kata material should not be added on unless first approved by Hanshi.
Kumite or sparring will be practiced under the supervision of black belts only.
Weapons katas are only to be taught by Hanshi, unless he instructs someone to teach material to another student.
Kyu ranks are forbidden to conduct demonstrations or teach privately without consent from their sensei.
Black belts should clear activities prior to the session as well.
Adults must join the IWKA after attaining their Yellow Belts & prior to earning their Green Belts. This organization is headed by the son of the founder of the style and sets standards for promotion. Students may join Hanshi Duessel’s Affiliation after this time. Children may join the IWKA as well.
It is recommended that all students buy protective hand, foot and head gear. These are available from Hanshi at his cost.
Shoes are not to be worn on the workout floor. Sneakers and socks should be worn to the dojo during summer months so we can train outside the dojo safely.
Note: If you are not able to attend the dojo, it is your responsibility to call to let us know. If you do this, you may make up the class. If you do not call, you forfeit the privilege to make the class session up.
“Choice: Reaction or Response” from Getting the Best from Yourself and Others by Julie Davis-Colan and Lee J. Colan
The power of choice is one of the greatest gifts we are given. Although we make many choices every hour of the day, we rarely make neutral choices. Each choice has a positive or negative consequence for us at some level. Our attitude toward life is the most important choice we make! Let’s look at why such a simple choice— embracing a positive or negative attitude—is more challenging than it appears for many people.
Just think of the last time you were in deep thought about your plans for the evening while driving home from work. As you pull into your driveway you wonder to yourself, “How did I get home?” The car seemed to practically drive itself. Driving is a relatively complex task, requiring many choices along the way—turn right, turn left, slow down, stop, change lanes. Still, driving home can be successfully performed almost subconsciously. So, consider the multitude of much smaller choices we make each day that we don’t really think about: waking up, brushing our teeth, saying “good morning” to a colleague, eating our lunch, performing a repetitive job duty, and so on. Subconscious actions are useful most of the time, but we must also consciously choose our attitude to control our results. Our ability to choose is a gift, but it is also a huge responsibility. No matter what today’s “it’s not my fault” culture encourages, we are all ultimately responsible for our own choices. In fact, we like to write the word responsibility as response–ability. As humans, we have the unique ability to respond.
Here’s a scenario repeated daily. Family dinners are important at the Smith house. Jim and Jane Smith and their two children (John, age three, and Janie, age four) just sat down at the table. Before the first bite of dinner is enjoyed, John spills his milk and it goes everywhere.
A reaction to this event: “Not again, John! Every time we eat, this happens. Think, son, think! Do you want to eat in your room from now on?” A response to this event: “Uh-oh, John. Let’s get a sponge and clean this up so you can eat your dinner.”
When you react, you make a purely emotional and subconscious decision. Often, because of how your experiences and prior choices have programmed your subconscious mind, your reactions do not help you achieve the best results.
On the other hand, when you respond to a situation, you make a constructive and conscious decision. That’s why there are emergency response teams, not emergency reaction teams.
When you simply react, your emotional instinct is in control, with little thought of the long-range consequences.
When you respond, your brain is fully engaged and your self-awareness is high. You have the long-term consequences in mind.
We all experience negative situations and people. Choosing to respond instead of react helps positively orchestrate our attitudes—and our lives.
Coming or not coming to the dojo to train falls into the thoughts above. Each person has a choice to attend or not attend. Legitimate family and work situations may stop a person who wants to attend. A person who arrives at the dojo but does not become positively engaged and aware of his or her practice is wasting that time and negatively impacting the energy within the class. This also happens in school and at work. We have 60,000 thoughts a day. Many are random thoughts. Some are constructive thoughts dealing with family, school, work or problem solving. One idea may be dealt with at a time. Choose to be a positive influence. Be fully engaged in each activity. Be aware of surroundings and how each choice is impacting the day. ‘Those Who Dare, Win!’
“A dojo is an area of confined conflict where we confront an opponent who is not an opponent, but rather a partner engaged in helping us understand ourselves more fully.” Joe Hyams
“You don’t overcome challenges by making them smaller but by making yourself bigger.” — John C. Maxwell
“Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.” Dr. Denis Waitley