“How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single minute before starting to improve the world.”  Anne Frank


MAY 2018

CONGRATULATIONS TO ALL STUDENTS AND PARENTS WHO SUPPORTED OUR 33rd ANNUAL BENEFIT TOURNAMENT.  Though it was a smaller event, the competition was good, and everyone should feel good about being a part of something that has raised in excess of $200,000 for charity.

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You’ve heard of the Power of Positive Thinking. There’s no doubt about it…the human mind is an amazingly powerful computer, capable of transforming our lives.  However, achieving what you want in life isn’t accomplished by sitting on a comfortable chair and visualizing all day long. Far too many people neglect to ACT in order to bring their dreams to life. As cosmetics company founder and CEO Estée Lauder put it so well, “I didn’t get here by dreaming about it or thinking about it—I got here by doing it.”   Author BJ Gallagher has captured the “secret” a few people are talking about –  thoughts and attitudes can change by taking positive ACTION, no matter what you are thinking or feeling! She calls it “The Power of Positive DOING”.

What will it take for you to be happy?

Benjamin Franklin said, “The U.S. Constitution doesn’t guarantee happiness, only the pursuit of it. You have to catch up to it yourself.”

Many of us pin our happiness to external factors: if only we had more money, or a better house, or whatever our latest “want” is . . . but your happiness has been and always will be right inside yourself.

Champions are driven by emotional motivatorsThe great ones chose discipline over pleasureMiddle class vs. world classThe great ones believe they cannot fail…they can only learn and growThe great ones take responsibilityChampions have an immense capacity for world class concentrationCommon sense is the foundation of high performanceThe great ones make the complicated simple Champions are driven by a world class belief system

It is said that the true purpose of life is the joy of helping others, but there is often a perception that the next generation is not as committed to changing the world as their parents were.  From what I have seen working at the high school and the college, young people are committed to change.

We do not know when we will help another individual.  In 2005 I was teaching a unit at the end of a semester which would end with the students understanding what the ultimate concept would be if they were to become happy and successful in their future lives.  One young woman (about 19) was in the class.  After the video entitled “The Secret” the class had a discussion and after much soul searching, they realized that the key element is for each person to experience personal fulfillment in life, uniting – Body, Mind, Family, Society and Finances.  They were shocked and relieved with the discovery.  The class emptied leaving only the one female student.  I noticed she was crying.  I talked to her and after a few minutes she said that she hadn’t planned to attend class that day and after coming to school – she was going to go home and commit suicide.  NOW after the previous discussions, the video and the realization, she was not going to do so.  She said she was going to register in a four-year college and follow her musical career as well.  We still communicate several times a year.  She lives in Knoxville, has a degree in economics and she is following her musical dreams.

I ended the current semester with the same procedures.  Discussions, video and further discussion after the video – ending with the revelation.  The first class after the video and discussion a middle-aged woman came to class and said my project, the discussions and the video changed her life.  She went home after the class and having Netflix she selected the video and mandated that her entire family experience it with her.  She is now working to be a positive individual . . . GO FIGURE!   The reaction to the college program about fulfilment, along with the years involvement at the high school, dojo and WCCC, demonstrates that each of us can touch many lives.
One way to understand this concept is to investigate THE SIX DEGREES OF SEPARATION is a theory that was first proposed in 1929 by the Hungarian writer Frigyes Karinthy in a short story called “Chains.” In the 1950s, Ithiel de Sola Pool (MIT) and Manfred Kochen (IBM) set out to prove the theory mathematically.  After twenty years they were still unable to solve the problem to their satisfaction.  In 1967, American sociologist Stanley Milgram devised a new way to test the theory, which he called “the small-world problem.” Milgram randomly selected people in the Midwest to send packages to a stranger located in Massachusetts. The senders knew the recipient’s name, occupation and general location. Each participant was instructed to send the package to a person he knew on a first-name basis who was most likely, out of all the participant’s friends, to know the target personally. That person would do the same, and so on until the package was personally delivered to its target recipient. Although participants expected the chain to include at least a hundred intermediaries, it only took (on average) between five and seven intermediaries for each package to be delivered successfully.  Milgram’s findings were published in Psychology Today and inspired the phrase “six degrees of separation.”

Ultimately, separation is the theory that any person on the planet can be connected to any other person on the planet through a chain of acquaintances that has no more than five intermediaries.  What we do with our time, how we approach and connect with others, creates the ability to affect many people positively or negatively.  Choose to be positive – CHANGE LIFE FOR THE BETTER.




I used to think of God as my observer, my judge, keeping track of the things I did wrong, so as to know whether I merited heaven or hell when I die. He was out there, sort of like a president. I recognized His picture when I saw it, but I didn’t really know Him.

But later on when I met Christ, it seemed as though life were rather like a bike, but it was a tandem bike, and I noticed that Christ was in the back helping me pedal. I don’t know just when it was He suggested we change places, but life has not been the same since I took the back seat to Jesus, My Lord. Christ makes life exciting. When I had control, I thought I knew the way, but it was rather boring, but predictable. It was the shortest distance between two points.

But when He took the lead, He knew delightful long cuts, up mountains, and through rocky places and at breakneck speeds; it was all I could do to hang on; Even though it often looked like madness, He said “Pedal!” I was worried and anxious and asked, “Where are you taking me?”

He laughed and didn’t answer, and I started to learn to trust. I forgot my boring life and entered the adventure. And when I’d say, “I’m scared”, He’d lean back and touch my hand.

He took me to people with gifts that I needed, gifts of healing, acceptance and joy. They gave me their gifts to take on my journey, our journey, my Lord’s and mine. And we were off again. He said, “Give the gifts away; they’re extra baggage, too much weight.” So I did, to the people we met, and I found that in giving I received, and still our burden was light.

I did not trust Him, at first, in control of my life. I thought He’d wreck it, but He knows bike secrets, knows how to make it bend to take sharp corners, jump to clear high rocks, fly to shorten scary passages. And I am learning to shut up and pedal in the strangest places, and I’m beginning to enjoy the view and the cool breeze on my face with my delightful constant Companion.

And when I’m sure I just can’t do any more, He just smiles and says …”Pedal.”

— Author Unknown



Talking negatively about a person doesn’t define who THEY are.  It defines who YOU are.  Myron Wideman


“Your mental attitude is something you can control outright and you must use self discipline until you create a positive mental attitude – your mental attitude attracts to you everything that makes you what you are.”    Napoleon Hill


If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor. ~Desmond Tutu


“Meaningful success needs a very personal definition. It is built from the inside out. The success of others has nothing to do with your own success.”  Dennis Waitley


April 2018


Remember that our 33rd Benefit Tournament is at Hackettstown High School on April 22nd. Pre-register and save money. Registration the day of the event is from 8:30 to 9:45 or when the person’s event runs. We generally are completely done by 3PM. We can use help in a number of area during the day. See me or Mrs. Hughes.


     DOJO FEES WILL BE IN EFFECT APRIL 2018 or when the multi-month plan completes

                        Please pay the beginning of each month



 1 CLASS            $60.00                   $110.00                     $140.00

 2 CLASSES     $90.00                    $145.00                     $220.00

 3 CLASSES     $100.00                  $170.00                     $250.00

 3 MONTHS (1class)   $155.00    $285.00                     $380.00

 3 MONTHS (2 classes) $225.00  $400.00            $610.00



     MONDAYS FOR ADULTS – 6:30 to 8:00 PM 

TUESDAYS & THURSDAYS    FOR CHILDREN – YOUNGER CHILDREN STILL 5:45 – 6:46 PM                                         OLDER / ADVANCED CHILDREN STILL 6:30 – 8:00 PM   ADLTS STILL 8:00 to 9:30 or 10:00 PM


SATURDAYS – ADULTS – STILL 10:00 to 11:00 AM                 CHILDREN – STILL 11:00 AM to NOON


In the chaos of everyday life, we often find ourselves spending most of our time on things that matter least. At the end of our lives, what our bank account was, the type of house we lived in, or the kind of car we drove will not be important…but the world may be different because of the core values we held true.

“It’s not what you have, it’s what you do with it that makes all the difference.”

~ John Mason, author.

Learn to deal with negative feedback, be open to change, set deadlines, hang on to your dreams like a bulldog, and so much more! You’ve been endowed with a certain mixture of abilities and opportunities that makes you unique. No mixture is insignificant. There’s something within each of us crying out to be above average and extraordinary.

 Unlock and unleash your full potential.

“Anyone can do it.” Step number one is to have an intense burning desire for your goal. If you have that, you are ready to get started.

“What I found was that these ideas work everywhere, for everyone, in virtually every country, no matter what your education, experience, or background may be when you begin.” ~ Brian Tracy

 “Is your life half-empty or half-full? What if I chose to find and embrace the silver linings, the life lessons in disguise? What if I chose to let go of the baggage I have been carrying around? The choice in perception makes all the difference.” ~ John J. Murphy

We are all blessed with an opportunity to bring greater joy and prosperity to this world. The hand we are dealt simply makes life interesting. The secret to it all is in how we perceive things. Is your life “half-empty” or “half-full”? More importantly, what is even “in your glass,” and how long have you been holding on to it?