The Terror Barrier By Bob Proctor
The first ten years of my life were spent in Owen Sound, Ontario. It’s a small town a few hours north of Toronto. I can vividly remember spending the summer days with my family at Harrison Park where there was a really great swimming pool. I would watch as the older kids went up the ladder to either jump or dive off the high diving board. They were having a great time. Wanting to be accepted by the older kids, I too went up the ladder … reluctantly, but I climbed it.
I will never forget the terror that gripped my mind and body when I looked down. Unfortunately, all the coaxing in the world wouldn’t have been sufficient to get me to jump off that board! There was no way I could do it. Feeling defeated, I climbed back down the ladder trying desperately to hide my embarrassment.
That was the first time in my life that I can recall coming up against the Terror Barrier. Unfortunately, not only did I lose out on the excitement and thrill that would have been gained by jumping … I also lost a little self-respect.
If you think back, you will probably be able to recall the first time you came face-to-face with the Terror Barrier. Did you step through it to freedom or back into safety, imprisoned by your own fears?
The Terror Barrier is a real entity. Now, I could waste a lot of breath telling you that the Terror Barrier is a figment as gauzy and hazy as the smoke from an extinguished campfire. But you’ll tell me differently, because fear can feel like a very real entity. What you think in your head is often acted out in your body – when faced with their Terror Barrier, people will actually break out in a cold sweat, find themselves covered in sudden hives, and even feel their hearts palpitate. Your perception is your reality! That’s how soundly your paradigms of “no” and “it can’t be done” are grounded in your Mind. Your comfortable mind will do anything it can think of to back you away from the “danger” of the unknown, just as it had me backing down those diving-board stairs.
In James Allan’s classic, “As A Man Thinketh,” he mentioned that fear can kill a person faster than a speeding bullet. While coming up against your Terror Barrier might not kill you physically, it certainly kills something inside you – like it did that day I stood on the diving board.
How to be a wrecking ball on your own Terror Barrier. Here’s great advice I picked up from a magazine I subscribe to:
1. Bulldoze through it scared. That’s right … just keep marching, no matter how badly your feet want to stay rooted to the ground. Refuse to permit this negative demon to control you, your emotions …your future.
2. Remember – the Terror Barrier rears its ugly head every time we attempt to make a major move in life into an area we have never traveled before. It’s as natural as day and night. Where before you used to let it stop you cold, now you can simply shrug and tell yourself, “Oh, there it is again. Well! This must really mean something great to me!”
3. Then, further remind yourself that it might be an unknown, but the other side of that Terror Barrier will have you that much closer to your goal. I’d encourage you to fall in love with THAT feeling of accomplishment, get wrapped up in it! I often say that if your goal doesn’t scare and excite you at the same time, you’re going after the wrong goal!
Eleanor Roosevelt said, “You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” That is excellent advice. By following her advice you will liberate yourself from the crippling emotional state that the Terror Barrier causes.
Do it scared. Begin to visualize yourself successfully being a wrecking ball on that Terror Barrier of yours. Mentally see yourself winning. Remember, perception IS reality!
I still experience the Terror Barrier myself! For the first 26 years of my life, I withdrew from anything that I truly feared. I reasoned that it really didn’t matter … I really didn’t need that or want to do that anyway. Then with the encouragement of a very good friend, I made a decision to step out and face my fears and I have been free ever since. That certainly doesn’t mean I don’t fear things from time to time … I do … I just don’t let the Terror Barrier stop me from doing or having what I really want to do or have.
Here are a couple of lines I picked up years ago, lines I repeat to myself over and over again whenever the Terror Barrier rises up in front of me.
“Fear knocked on the door, faith opened it, and lo – there was no one there.” Quite simply put, face the thing you fear with all the light and consciousness and enthusiasm you feel for that goal of yours – and fear will duck for the shadows.
In my business, I have been very fortunate to travel the globe and work in countries all over the world. I could not even guess at the number of times I have sat with men and women who came face-to-face with their Terror Barrier … wanting to go ahead but not being able to. These were people with unlimited potential … who could have succeeded at anything they seriously wanted to do … but didn’t because they let their fear rule the day. Is that Terror Barrier holding you back? Do what I did … do what many people do around you every day …crash through. The compensation is incredible. Step out and be all that you are capable of being!